My job involves interviewing people who have been through a lot of tragedies. The interviews are often heavy. They end in tears. They end with a bittersweet catharsis with all parties leaving the studio feeling somewhat emotionally depleted. Not so with Rwandan singer Jean Paul Samputu.
I interviewed Jean Paul Samputu back in 2009 for my public radio show The State We're In on the 15th anniversary of the Rwandan genocide. More than a million people were killed in the space of just a few weeks, including Jean Paul's family. The tragedy was compounded when he discovered his family's murderer was no nameless, faceless band of marauders, but his best friend, Vincent. So I expected a lot of pain, a lot emotional contortions. This did not happen.
Don't get me wrong. Jean Paul suffered terribly. He couldn't sing for years, falling deeply into the bottle. He was consumed with thoughts of revenge, consulted witch doctors for answers, who had none. He says he was committing suicide in slow motion.
But there was this droning, undeniable voice in the back of his head that said over and over: “forgive him.” After 9 years, Jean Paul returned to his village to find Vincent, who was understandably apprehensive at the reunion. So he called Vincent before the village and, publicly, forgave him.
Jean Paul describes that day like “...a wedding. I had joy in my life again. I was free from the prison of hatred. And he (Vincent) was free.” He could sing again. Vincent says that, although he was forced to kill Jean Paul's family, he will never be free of the guilt. But he is no longer haunted by dreams of his victims and, whenever he and Samputu meet, “It's like a party!”
Jean Paul is a religious man. If you ask him why he forgave Vincent, he will say God told him to do it. Personally, I disagree. Especially now that Jean Paul has taken his message of the healing power of forgiveness on the road. The message I took away is this: forgiveness of this magnitude seems divine, but in fact it’s very human. We can all do it. That's why when my interview with Jean Paul ended, we all left the studio singing.
Jonathan Groubert is the host of the The State We're In Podcast, The What's Up Amsterdam Podcast and will be hosting the TEDx event in Breda on October the 31st.
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